Alright, all you folks out there screaming “NO! NO! NO!” to the Obama administration’s healthcare plan, you’re entitled to your opinion. You don’t like his plan? Fine. Let’s hear yours.

Seriously. I’m listening.

Leave it as it is? That’s working for you, is it? How nice for you! Evidently, you’re just super-lucky and have never been very sick. Congratulations. Or maybe you and your family have amazing health insurance from some little company I’ve never heard of because I’ve worked for or had insurance with the four largest health insurance companies in the country, and let me tell ya, they didn’t work for me. I get to pay a lot of money for health insurance, and then when we get sick, they pay a little bit of the bill.

So those people who are very sick, those people who don’t have health insurance or those people who have crummy health insurance just have to suffer? Very nice. How Christian. How family-values. How Republican.

I’ll be very honest with you - Obama’s plan is not my ideal. It worries me, as does all change. Change is scary, but in this case, SOMETHING has to change. The status quo is not working, and when I hear people say, “Leave it alone. It’s fine,” I think, “Don’t be such a chicken. Let’s make a change. If it doesn’t work, we’ll change it again, but you’re a fool if you think America can’t improve.”

People say, “It’s going to cost too much.” Do you know how much the uninsured already cost us? Homeless people who walk into ER’s every other day? Uninsured people or underinsured people who never make payments?  Or consider the case of a friend of mine. As a hemophiliac, he contracted HIV/AIDS from a blood transfusion when that great Republican hero, Ronald Reagan, refused to act to protect the blood supply from the “gay disease.” (In his wisdom, Reagan chose the stick-my-fingers-in-my-ears-and-hum-loudly approach instead.) My friend was a teenager. His mother, like most mothers I know, could not bear to watch her son die, but his meds were astronomically expensive. Even if she’d been wealthy, she would’ve run out of money on them. So to keep her son alive, she took minimum-wage jobs and lived in poverty on purpose so she could qualify for Medicare. All you folks who think her son should’ve just been allowed to die, would you have done any differently? (Say “yes” and you’ll either be lying or admitting to being the worst parent ever, but feel free.) So we taxpayers paid for most of my friend’s medical bills, and you know what? As a Christian, not to mention his friend, that is okay with me.

Anyway, do you know how many BILLIONS of dollars the health insurance companies make every year? Why do we have to give these paper-pushing middlemen that money? Why couldn’t we just eliminate them and give the money directly to doctors, nurses, lab technicians, researchers and other people who actually DO something? The CEO of United Health Group made $1.6 billion dollars in 2006. That’s one CEO at one insurance company, and that’s disgusting.

The other big point the opposition brings up is somehow the Canadians’ fault. Evidently, Canadians have to wait in long lines for doctors and beg for treatment from their legislators. Of course, I have friends from Canada who have told me that is not true, but what do they know? So all the Republicans point to Canada and say, “Look how awful they have it up there!” Guess what? Canada’s not the only country in the world with universal healthcare. There are other models, better models. Sweden has government-funded health care, and it appears to be working very well. (Have you ever seen a Swedish person? They’re beautiful AND healthy!) Their system is universal, but very decentralized compared to Canada’s. Surely, if the Swedes can put together a universal healthcare system that works, we bright and industrious Americans can too!

The current American system is essentially Social Darwinism. I find it ironic that so many conservatives support it. They hate Darwin’s evolutionary theory; they hate it in school, but in healthcare, they’re all about “survival of the fittest.” If you don’t have the money, die. If you don’t have insurance, watch your kids die. Republicans will, however, fight to let you buy a semi-automatic to off yourself with if you don’t want to suffer a prolonged death. If you don’t have insurance and get pregnant, though, they still want you to have the baby. Good luck with that.

So we’re back where we started. Our healthcare system doesn’t work. It may have worked fifty years ago when people worked for one company all their lives, insurance was simpler, and medicine was more primitive. Nowadays, people change jobs all the time, insurance companies have come up with ingenious ways to make billions of dollars without really covering anything, and we have miraculous cures most patients can’t afford. President Obama wants to do SOMETHING.

You don’t like his plan? Fine. What’s YOUR idea?

Please. We’re all listening.

March has been rough for my family and circle of friends. Aside from the general malaise caused by the recession, we’ve been dealing with a lot of health problems. My diabetic godmother has been in the hospital for weeks, battling an infection in her foot. She had to have her big toe amputated, and they’re fighting to save the rest of her foot. My kids have been taking turns getting sick; my 3-year-old was actually hospitalized for dehydration after a couple days of nonstop vomiting. Lovely. One of my sister’s lifelong friends has a 3-month-old who had to have emergency open heart surgery. The baby’s doing alright now, but last week, her mother lost her job. Argh.

Needless to say, we’ll all be happy to see April arrive. In the meantime, though, I’ve been trying hard to look on the bright side, remembering things I love, and looking for new things to enjoy. Here is some of the stuff that has been keeping me sane through these bleak gray weeks. Maybe some of it will help you too!

1. NCAA basketball - Thank God for March madness. Otherwise, we’d all go mad in March. We’ve gone from 70-degree weather to snow today. At least we can snuggle up and watch some great college ball!
2. Chuck - I love this TV show! It has taken an intriguing turn in the last couple weeks, and I’m looking forward to tomorrow night’s episode.
3. The Daily Show with Jon Stewart - Stewart’s feud with that frenetic, financial freak Jim Cramer made for a nice distraction for a while.
4. Japanese Hibachi Grill - I have been craving sushi and hibachi for a while. Last night, my hubby and I had our first night out in weeks, and he treated me to Japanese at a new place in Plainfield. It was expensive, but a very tasty treat.
5. Guacamole - I gave up alcohol for Lent, so I haven’t been able to “taste the summer” with tropical drinks like margaritas and mojitos. Avocados are in season, though, so I’ve been able to get them cheap and make guacamole. Reminds me of sun, sand and surf in Puerto Vallarta!
6. New flip-flops - cheap and colorful. I bought a whole bag of them from my Avon-lady aunt. The joy of new shoes and the promise of warm weather without the guilt-inducing expense.
7. Hair color - I went red. It’s still too early to go blonde. Maybe in June.
8. Old comedies - A lot of classic comedies have been popping up on various cable channels. I’ve enjoyed “Blazing Saddles,” “Trading Places,” “Paint Your Wagon,” “Some Like It Hot,” and “It Happened One Night.” Great flicks.
9. Spring dresses - I’ve been collecting gift cards from Dress Barn since Christmas, and I ended up with over $200 after my birthday. They were having a nice sale last week, and I ended up with two. I still have $60 in gift cards!
10. Alternative music - Between NBC’s Chuck soundtrack and my Facebook friends, I’ve discovered several great new songs from bands I’d never heard before: The Fratellis, The Eels, Asteroids Galaxy Tour, and Switches.
11. Seedlings - In the rare moments when both kids were healthy, we started some tomato, pepper, and basil plants in little plastic cups in the kitchen window. They’re sprouting now. Something about the process is very wholesome and uplifting.

Here’s to April! I hope it’s better for all of us!

I haven’t written anything for a while. Mostly, I’ve been reading and waiting. I read Northanger Abbey by Jane Austen.I really should have picked it years ago. I love Austen, and Northanger Abbey is a biting satire of Gothic literature which is my academic specialty. Every time I read Austen, though, I close the book in despair, knowing I will never be able to do what she does. She is amazing.  She creates characters you care about, and she does it with this nearly inexplicable combination of subtlety and obviousness. Her genius is enough to make any other writer hopeless.

The Austen book’s pretty short, and I finished it over last weekend, then switched gears completely. I picked up James Ellroy’s The Black Dahlia at the Writing Center book exchange. It’s historical fiction which is a favorite genre of mine, and it’s set in post-WW II Hollywood. It’s horribly violent and bleak and crass, though. Kind of like Trainspotting set 40 years earlier. I wouldn’t say I enjoyed it, but it was compelling.

Speaking of compelling discussions,  I watched Meghan McCain on Rachel Maddow last night. She seems like a lovely young lady who is smart enough to keep her mouth shut when she’s not educated on a subject. A rare and admirable quality in a Republican. Evidently, she’s writing for The Daily Beast now, and she’s gotten some rather nasty criticism from neocons who don’t like what she’s saying. She’s been condemning Ann Coulter and Rush Limbaugh, so she obviously has good taste. Listening to her gives me hope that the next generation of Republicans will reject the politics of hate, paranoia and intolerance that has dominated their party in the last 15 years.

I’ve also recently discovered a new hero of sorts - a man named Frank Schaeffer.  He is the son of Francis Schaeffer, one of the architects of the Christian Right movement and one of the founders of Focus on the Family. But Frank’s faith led him down a very similar path to the one I’ve been following. He has now rejected most of the Republican platform. He writes for The Huffington Post, and is both pro-choice and pro-life. (No, they are not opposites!!! Yes, it is possible to be both!!!) I first heard him on NPR a few months ago, and I was really impressed and relieved to hear I am not alone. There are other liberal Christians out there who are finally feeling free to make themselves heard.

Speaking of faith and Christianity and all that, it’s Lent. Like an idiot, I gave up alcohol. I started regretting it less than 24 hours after Mardi Gras. Only 31 days left now. Argh.

And the days are interminably long now that stupid, stinking Daylight Savings Time is upon us again. This whole week has been awful, and DST is mostly to blame. It has my whole family’s sleep schedule off completely. It makes me anxious to see the sun still up at 8pm in MARCH! Heavens! By June 21st, the sun won’t go down until midnight. Do you know how hard it is to get kids to bed at a decent hour when it’s still light outside?!? I guess that doesn’t matter to the politicians and corporate bigwigs who pushed it through the State Legislature so they could get more golf time.

Speaking of kids, I’m worried about my son. He seems to be getting lost in the shuffle at school. He’s very bright, and he’s getting terrific grades. He never gets in trouble. But he complains about school all the time. He hates it. I don’t know what to do about it. My daughter loves school. I loved school. My husband, however, dropped out at age 16. Is it a boy thing? And if it is, what’s the problem? Are boys just bad at school? Or is school bad at boys? I have a feeling it might be the latter…

I’m also worried about my godmother. She’s in the hospital with an ulcerated foot, and she could lose it completely. She’s a morbidly obese diabetic who doesn’t take care of herself at all. I seem to see a lot of people lately who put themselves into painful, difficult situations because they consistently make terrible decisions. I try to be sympathetic, but I get so angry with them for being irresponsible and blind to the consequences of their own actions.

I am looking forward to our annual St. Pat’s party, though. It’s always great to see friends. I’ll be sober this year, so I can enjoy watching everyone else get un-sober!

And I’m looking forward to March Madness, even though my poor IU Hoosiers will not be playing in the post-season. I’ve still got my Butler Bulldogs! And I can always enjoy rooting against Duke and North Carolina. College basketball really is the best sport in the world.

So we’re waiting. Waiting for news about my son and my godmother. Waiting for St. Pat’s and the end of Lent. Waiting for the NCAA tourney to start. Waiting for summer and the end of Daylight Savings Time. I hate waiting when it’s stopping me from getting things done. If I had information, I could make plans. As it is, I feel like I’m in the waiting room of life’s doctor’s office. Very annoying.

Okay, so my blog’s been pretty political the past few months. But with the election over (HURRAY, OBAMA!), I can turn my attention to the upcoming holidays. Next week is Thanksgiving, and a few of my friends have been asking for recipes. I figured I could just post them here, and share them with everyone all at once.

With the end of the fall semester fast approaching, I don’t know if I’ll get back on here anytime soon, so keep the faith and have a great Turkey Day!

Jennifer’s Six-Year Apple Pie
This pie recipe got its name because it took me six years of marriage to put together an apple pie my husband really loved. Not that he’s picky…

Double-Crust Pie Dough

2 c. flour
½ t. salt
2/3 c. shortening
7 T. ice water

In a mixing bowl, stir together flour and salt. Cut in shortening with pastry cutter until pieces are size of small peas. Sprinkle 1 tablespoon of water at a time over the mixture and gently toss with a fork. Repeat until moistened.

Turn the dough out on a lightly floured surface and divide it in half. Form each half into a ball. Using your hands, flatten one ball into a circle, then roll it to a circle about 12 inches in diameter. Carefully remove dough to 9-inch pie plate and trim it even with the rim of the plate.

For top crust, roll remaining dough to a 12-inch circle.

Filling

3 large Golden Delicious apples, peeled and sliced
¼ c. sugar
1 T. cornstarch
¼ t. cinnamon
1/8 t. ground nutmeg
1 t. vanilla

Combine apple slices, sugar, cornstarch, cinnamon, nutmeg and vanilla. Pour into the pie plate. Dot with butter. Cover with top crust and poke holes with a fork to allow steam to escape. Trim crust with pizza cutter and crimp edges with tines of a fork. Gently brush the top crust with milk, then sprinkle with sugar.  Cover edges with foil and bake at 375 for 20 minutes. Remove foil and bake 20 minutes more. Allow to cool about 30 minutes before serving.

Stephanie’s Party Cheese Dip

My sister got this recipe from one of her co-workers. We are now addicted to it.

 

1 jar Kraft Old English cheese

1 oz. bar Philadephia cream cheese

Chopped green onion to taste

Fresh bagels, chopped into bite-size pieces

 

Mix together the cheeses and onions. Serve with bagels.

The Holiday Turkey - Miller Style

 

The ladies of Ida Street have an annual progressive dinner that always ends at the Millers’ where Judy has the traditional turkey and dressing. When my mom started hosting holidays, she would call the turkey expert, Judy, in a panic for help.  So, Judy wrote out the recipe in this simple step-by-step format that I have to reproduce in its original form. Any other way would not do it justice.

 

1.     Capture a 23 - 25 pound turkey. Or pick one out in the freezer section.

2.     Thaw the frozen turkey for 4 - 5 days in the fridge.

3.     Remove the giblets - some are in the cavity, some in the neck. (Nasty things.) Save them for gravy.

4.     Rinse the bird inside and out in COLD water.

5.     Position the turkey breast-side up in a roaster. This is important. Breast-side down is NOT a good thing.

6.     Soften a stick of butter - not margarine - in the microwave.

7.     Grease the outer skin of the turkey with butter.

8.     Sprinkle the outside of the turkey with salt.

9.     Rub salt inside the cavity.

10. Lay an entire stick of butter inside the cavity.

11. Place this greasy, salty turkey in the roaster and fill the roaster half-full of water.

12. Add a stick of butter to the water. (Yep, that’s what she said!)

13. Put the bird in a 200 degree oven at midnight (Miller time) and bake for about 9 hours. That way your oven is available for other things the next day and the bird will carve better when it has cooled.

 

The roaster will be full of buttery broth which is wonderful for noodles.

Mom’s Party Potatoes

This recipe actually came from my mom’s sister. We’ve had these delicious mashed potatoes every year for Thanksgiving and Christmas for as long as I can remember!  Mom now uses packaged mashed potatoes from the dairy section of the grocery, but I still like to use real potatoes if I have time.

15 - 16 medium potatoes

Butter and salt to taste

Milk for consistency

8 oz. Philadelphia cream cheese

½ pint sour cream

Paprika

 

Peel and boil potatoes, then mash with butter, salt, and a little milk. Add cream cheese, sour cream and enough milk for consistency. Pour into buttered casserole. Dot with butter and paprika. Bake at 350 for 40-50 minutes.  Serves 10-12.

I lost a friend last month. His name was Ryan Gregory Smith, and I had known him for 20 years. We were in marching band together; he played trumpet, and I played clarinet. When we were seniors, I became a drum major (field conductor), and Ryan was our trumpet soloist. We started dating that fall.

Ryan was the ideal high school boyfriend. First, he was beautiful. Six feet tall, slim with great cheekbones and broad shoulders, blond hair that always fell just right and pretty blue eyes. And he was smart. We were in AP classes together, and he did very well in school. He was also funny. He’d throw away one-liners that you wouldn’t get until later. Best of all, he treated me like a treasure. He was a great kisser, but we never went further than that, so things never got difficult or complicated.

We had our graduation party together with four other dear friends, and we spent the whole summer between high school and college, hanging out at my parents’ house, having a blast. It was one of the best times of my life.
Ryan went off to college in Illinois, while I headed to IU in southern Indiana. Then he moved to Cleveland, Ohio. We didn’t see each other much, but we e-mailed and talked on the phone now and then. When he came home to Indy, we always got together for lunch or something.

The last time I saw Ryan was at his brother Matt’s funeral. Matt had committed suicide at age 27. Ryan was devastated. I spoke to him on the phone once, and we exchanged several e-mails in the ensuing months. Then, in August, I learned that he’d been hospitalized with stomach cancer. It was going to be okay, though. And then it wasn’t. He died on August 28th at the age of 36.

Over the past few weeks, I have re-connected with dozens of people over the loss of our friend. I am trying to make sure I make more time for all of my friends now. It’s too bad we have to lose someone to realize how much we value the people around us.

Ryan was a wonderful man. I hope lots of people remember that. I will.